Let’s talk about Female Entrepreneurship

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When I was 12 years old, our family moved from one school district to another. While my younger sister quickly made friends in our new neighbourhood, there weren’t any kids my age that lived close by. I spent that first summer hanging out with eight year olds, more often than not. That was the summer of performing Spice Girl dance routines, my burgeoning obsession with Victoria Beckham, and the overuse of the expression “Girl Power!” anytime and everywhere!

Perhaps it was our amazing dance moves or the on-cue lip-synching, or perhaps it’s something that’s always been within me, but I’ve had an “I can do anything” attitude as far as I can remember. I’ve always had huge dreams and I never thought that any of them were impossible. Over the years I’ve realized that you have to dream big and work hard, and success can be achieved.

I’ve always hated working for others. I don’t like taking orders, especially if I think my way is best (which it usually is). No matter where my career would lead me, I knew without a doubt that I would have to be the boss. It was always what I wanted, even as a bartender or a hair stylist, my goal was to own a restaurant or a salon – not simply take home a paycheque every week. I wanted to make my own schedule. I wanted to run things

And so I did. I was an event and wedding planner for a few years, I then moved on to being a cupcake and wedding cake baker, I did real estate for many years throughout, and have always loved the thought of being a writer, and have even started getting paid for some freelance work. I want to do things I’m passionate about, things that I am good at, and I want to be successful at them. The definition of a female entrepreneur: a strong woman who works hard to do things she loves – and gets paid for it!

But trying to balance self-employed work with babies became overwhelming, and left me grasping for straws. So, instead, I stepped back a bit, and I helped my serial-entrepreneur husband with his growing businesses. I am the ‘backbone’. I create the websites, the graphics, the business cards.  I do the bookkeeping, the accounting, and the payroll. I write emails and invoice people and answer phone calls. It’s exhausting, but we’re creating this world of ours together, and it’s hard, but happy, work.

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So imagine my shock when I overhear my daughter speaking about me to a friend, something along the lines of “my mom doesn’t work, she just stays home all day.” You could have seen smoke blasting out of my ears! I wanted to shout – Are you kidding me?! I don’t work?! What about all those hours sitting in front of a computer when I’d rather be hanging out with you? What about the writing I do? The hours toiling away while you’re at school? All this while I’m raising your baby brother and trying to run a household, and make sure there’s dinner on the table, and laundry put away – why do you think I only clean the house once a week?

Through my daughter’s eyes, I was a boring stay-at-home mom that was continually stressed out. It crushed me.

It wasn’t her fault, of course. It was mine. While I was busy trying to keep it all together, I had forgotten to have conversations with my daughter about my passions, my dreams, and the things that I had done and accomplished. I never told her the excitement I felt when we lived in Vancouver and I sold cupcakes at the baker’s market and catered to weddings and corporate events. I never told her that when we moved, I had to admit to myself that the market wasn’t there and, defeatedly, closed down. I never told her that I was always thinking of what I could be doing next. And all the things I was working for now – I love writing and blogging, so I turned it into a something that I was getting paid for (that’s a job!). I even do websites when I have the time!

I want to be a role model for my daughter. I want her to know that with hard work and heart and soul, she can do anything she dreams of. Anything she desires can be hers. I want her to know that I work hard – for her, and for my family. I want her to know that women can do anything men can do, if not better! Female entrepreneurship is something that I’ve been so passionate about for so long, and I decided I have to bring it to my blog.

Writing about self-employment isn’t always easy or fun. But it’s through failures and missteps that we learn. It’s through community that we encourage each other. And it’s passion that keeps us going. It’s that little bit of ‘Girl Power’ from twelve year old me, to the knowledge and strength gained over all the years of working hard at doing things I love while creating a life I’m ecstatic with.

Every Monday I’ll be writing about entrepreneurship – it could be about mom-work balance, or business plans, or marketing strategies, or whatever sparks my entrepreneurial interest at the time. And I’ll share more on a new project I’m working on, that will hopefully come to fruition this summer.

Want to be inspired? Check out these exciting sources below for motivation, smart thinking, business sense, and passion!

+ Female Entrepreneur Association + provides a ton of resources and inspiration
+ Braid Creative and Consulting + branding & business for creative entrepreneurs
+ Kyla Roma Creative + design & strategy for passionate doers
+ Danielle LaPorte + discovering true desires to map out your life
+ Hack to Start + podcast & blog for unconventional entrepreneurs

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36 Comments

  1. February 2, 2015 / 3:38 pm

    I really look forward to your blog posts on this topic! And don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll daughter will see all your hard work someday. It took me a long time to see all the work my mom did during my life!

  2. February 2, 2015 / 5:44 pm

    I can’t wait to read more of this series! As a work at home mom, I definitely know what you mean about wanting to be a role model!

  3. February 2, 2015 / 5:52 pm

    What a great post and I couldn’t agree more! If it’s terrifying and amazing you must do it! I loved this!

  4. February 2, 2015 / 6:18 pm

    I can’t wait to read your new series. I feel like we all will learn a lot!

  5. Angelic Sinova
    February 2, 2015 / 6:30 pm

    I LOVE THIS! I love the Female Entrepreneur Association so much <3

  6. February 2, 2015 / 8:00 pm

    I’m a can-do woman like you. I think of myself as independent and focused and willing to work hard. I’ve always been a writer, and that’s taken me through a couple different jobs. Now I’m a mom with three little girls, and trying to juggle that will a blog (where my writing career has taken me). Like you, I worry about how my girls see me… Mommy is always on the computer instead of playing with us. But I want them to know that I love them and love being with them, but I also love writing and connecting with other moms. I’m trying to combine my passions and I hope someday they’ll see what I accomplished, and what I did from home so that I would have more time with them. Although, as you say, it’s hard to explain some things to young kids. 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

    • Margarita
      February 4, 2015 / 3:11 pm

      It’s very difficult to balance it and to fully explain the whys and hows of it all, isn’t it?

  7. February 2, 2015 / 9:24 pm

    I love your definition of an entrepreneur. It sounds to me like you do a lot of work, and you are a mommy. That is a full time job upon itself. You are a role model for your daughter. One day you will get to explain to your daughter that you can work from home. How old is your daughter?

  8. February 2, 2015 / 9:33 pm

    Love your take on this. Beautifully written.

  9. February 2, 2015 / 9:33 pm

    What a great post and link up of empowering women.

  10. February 2, 2015 / 9:38 pm

    I’m so type A so I’ve found myself loving the entrepreneurship and all that surrounds it!

  11. February 2, 2015 / 11:39 pm

    Kids are so delightfully refreshing. Their little perspectives are so funny, and yet so thought-provoking. Anyway, I look forward to this. Being an entrepreneur is hard. Being a woman in the workplace is hard. Doing both? Hella hard. So, I’m eager to follow along. Your daughter is lucky to have you.

  12. February 3, 2015 / 12:25 am

    What a great post, and am looking forward to reading more in the series!

  13. February 3, 2015 / 3:02 am

    oh wow i can only imagine what you were feeling when your daughter said that. Great post

  14. February 3, 2015 / 7:22 am

    Oooh! This is going to be a good series! I look forward do reading more!

  15. February 3, 2015 / 8:42 am

    Great post! I feel we don’t give ourselves enough credit as women.. this was such an empowering post.. thanks for posting this

  16. February 3, 2015 / 12:04 pm

    Awesome post! I believe if you think it, you totally can do it! <3

  17. February 3, 2015 / 12:13 pm

    I look forward to those posts. I often wonder how my daughter will view what I do when she’s older. Even my husband… got 4 bills in the mail yesterday and he was like “WHAT ARE THESE!?” I said, “I get these every week. I just have to make some calls to the hospital and insurance company before filing an appeal.” and walked away. So… what do I do all day?

    Everything.

    • Margarita
      February 4, 2015 / 3:12 pm

      This made me laugh! It’s so true – the assumption is still that we do “nothing”!

  18. February 3, 2015 / 2:30 pm

    I am going to really love this series. I can’t believe your daughter said that. It’s funny but she’s gotta know that you aren’t sitting on the couch all day watching TV!

  19. February 3, 2015 / 6:53 pm

    “Through my daughter’s eyes, I was a boring stay-at-home mom that was continually stressed out. It crushed me.”
    This. It’s like my future fears in a sentence!

  20. February 4, 2015 / 7:55 am

    maybe you should have ‘take your child to work day’ so she will find out what it is you do

  21. kathy downey
    February 4, 2015 / 9:28 am

    Thanks for the inspiration,I truely enjoyed the post.

  22. Lynda Cook
    February 4, 2015 / 2:11 pm

    You sound like a very strong go getter type of woman to me, but there is way to many people out there that also think when you work from home that you do nothing, sad really

  23. February 4, 2015 / 5:32 pm

    This is GREAT, thank you for sharing your journey here. It’s not always easy to balance being a mom with work, particularly when your work is overlooked by even your kids. I feel you!

  24. Michelle L
    February 4, 2015 / 8:31 pm

    WHere Theres a will theres a way.

  25. Jan
    February 5, 2015 / 9:47 am

    ‘she just stays at home all day.’ it seems to be taking a long time for many to not associate some laziness, or not truly working, with those who work from home.

  26. Laurie P
    February 5, 2015 / 10:13 am

    Kids don’t really see the big picture and truly understand until they’ve grown a bit. In some cases, if they end up doing the same, then they totally get it. I vividly remember having a conversation with my oldest about this same topic. A lot of his friends had parents with big careers, judges, lawyers, executive chefs, actors, it was hard to get thru to him sometimes. He’s 16 now, and as he sees all that I do with his baby sister, on top of maintaining the home, working from home, AND running errands to help him out, I think he gets it.

  27. Amy Heffernan
    February 6, 2015 / 9:28 am

    LOVE this! Great and powerful!!

  28. Anna W
    February 7, 2015 / 12:19 pm

    Very inspiring post, I work for myself cleaning and take care of my home and three children. I like it because I can set whatever days I want and can always be there for the important school functions,

  29. mongupp
    February 7, 2015 / 4:55 pm

    I would love to work from home…i admire the mums who can do it!

  30. Krista M
    February 8, 2015 / 2:56 pm

    I have felt the same way with my daughter. I stayed home for many years as a stay-at-home mom & I agree– she thought I wasn’t doing anything useful or meaningful with my life, & I had to teach her being a mom has meaning, too. I think now she does see & understand all the jobs & responsibilities I have and respects it’s not easy to balance it all.

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