My Year of Self-Care


I haven’t taken care of myself in a long, long time. That’s not to say that I don’t allow myself to indulge in a fancy macaron or that I don’t do my hair or my nails – no, it’s that I haven’t truly cared for my health and, in turn, my self. I’ve learnt the hard way the term “self-love” is not the same as “self-care”, and telling yourself that you’re beautiful the way you are doesn’t necessarily help when the way you are is overweight and unhealthy.

I’ve been living in denial, to put it bluntly. My house of cards has just blown over and I’m left with the ruins of my health. I didn’t need to hear that I was beautiful the way I was, I didn’t need to hear that my self-worth isn’t dictated by a number on a scale – I know all of this. It’s just hard to accept the truth about my weight when the lies were exactly what I wanted to hear.

I wanted to think I was healthy by adding an avocado to a taco, which was accompanied by beer and chips. I wanted to think I was being sassy by getting rid of my scale and not living life according to how much I weigh. I was kidding myself. I was lying to myself. Self-love and acceptance wasn’t helping me lose weight or get healthy.

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I needed perspective. I needed to confront the reality of my bulging situation – clothes that haven’t fit in a long, long time, a body that feels more mushy than muscle, a tired, stressed out mind of a women, who would rather trick herself with indulgences like dinners out and craft beer tastings than exercise and food diaries.

A large part of this, I see now, is that I still have such a hard time with really putting myself first and taking care of myself and my health. I sometimes feel like I’m pushing my family aside if I focus on myself. That they will somehow be wronged and feel upset because I’m taking care of myself first. Even writing this, I’m not fully convinced that putting myself first is the right thing to do. But I know that it’s something I have to, for my health and for my happiness.


I’ve been thinking a lot about my “theme” or my “word” for 2015 – have you ever done this? I read about it everywhere, that choosing a word to describe what you want this year and what you’re working for helps keep you focused and motivated.

My theme for 2015 isย self-care.

“Self-care includes any intentional actions you take to care for your physical, mental, and emotional health” (source). I feel like these three aspects are so intertwined, and I’ve really lacked in providing any physical care for myself – it’s challenging for me. While I may take care of myself mentally and emotionally, when my physical health suffers, I get upset and anxious.

My weight holds me back from doing so many things. It brings down my confidence, adds to my social anxiety, and although I’m not ecstatic about staying at home all the time, eating and drinking my evenings away in front of the tv seems a better option that attempting to look good and go out and interact with people.

My body’s changed, my mind has changed, it’s time to face up to the fact that I need to do something for myself, and for my health. And not just preach about it, not just blog about it, and tell my family and friends, and then eat healthy for a couple of days and give up.

I am excited to join a 40 Pounds in 40 Days Weight Loss Program, courtesy of the Polo Health & Longevity Centre in New Westminster, BC, and Dr. Allana Polo, herself. That’s right! 40 pounds in 40 days – well, not quite. Men can easily achieve that, while most women on the program lose between 20-30 pounds in those 40 days, which is still quite the feat!

I’ll be posting my progress on the blog, and you can follow me along my weightless journey on instagram, twitter and Facebook, where I’ll be using the hashtag #PoloWeightLoss! For more information on the program, go to the official site of Polo Health, and their Facebookย and Twitter pages for news and info.

Also check out 99 Ways to Practice Self Care:

99 Ways to Practice Self Care




  1. January 15, 2015 / 4:36 pm

    This is amazing and YOU are amazing for recognizing and feeling this way. You will do great, especially because you seem to really know what you need and I want. I look forward to coming back and reading all about your journey!

    • Margarita
      January 16, 2015 / 11:17 am

      Thank you! It’s really hard to figure out exactly what’s wrong and why things aren’t working, but I think I’m on track now!

  2. January 15, 2015 / 4:45 pm

    Good for you! Way to look at the emotional and the physical parts. I hope this year yields awesome things for you!

    • Margarita
      January 16, 2015 / 11:17 am

      Thank you so much for stopping by!

  3. January 15, 2015 / 4:58 pm

    It sounds like you and I are in the exact same exact spot and like you I have made a commitment in 2015 to change that!

    • Margarita
      January 16, 2015 / 11:17 am

      Good luck with your efforts as well! I know how hard it can be to stick to things ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. January 15, 2015 / 5:08 pm

    I feel like your singing my song. This year my goal is to take charge of my well-being. Physically and mentally. I’m rooting for you ๐Ÿ˜€

    • Margarita
      January 16, 2015 / 11:19 am

      Good luck to you too!!

  5. January 15, 2015 / 5:09 pm

    Self-care. I like that “resolution”. Definitely a good one ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. January 15, 2015 / 7:22 pm

    Love this. Cheers to an awesome 2015!

  7. January 15, 2015 / 8:50 pm

    Go you for making the commitment to take care of yourself! It’s hard to put your needs first when you have a family who also needs you, but the best thing for your family is a happy, healthy you. I’ll be cheering you on!

    • Margarita
      January 16, 2015 / 11:34 am

      Thank you so much! I agree, when I take care of myself, I”m happier and can be better person for my family ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. January 16, 2015 / 6:43 am

    Self-care is a great resolution. We should always take care of ourselves! <3

  9. Kyla Currier
    January 16, 2015 / 7:08 am

    Self-care is an excellent resolution! I love the idea of this!

  10. January 16, 2015 / 9:19 am

    I love your theme for 2015! This is the year to take care of yourself!

  11. Ashley Bree Perez
    January 16, 2015 / 9:49 am

    Great new year resolution!!!!

  12. January 16, 2015 / 10:06 am

    Love your word for the year. That really is a great way to pass a year with lots of self-care. Sometimes I think we forget to take care of ourselves too.

  13. January 16, 2015 / 10:44 am

    Good luck on your journey and self-care is very important, i always think i can take better care of my family and friends if i cae for myslef first

  14. January 17, 2015 / 6:15 am

    My husband & I decided to drop processed foods & refined sugar. Not an easy task, but eating clean has made us feel so much better and the weight is coming off!

  15. Nena Sinclair
    January 18, 2015 / 12:57 am

    You are making a big step in the right direction! Congrats and way to go!

  16. Karen Glatt
    January 18, 2015 / 8:51 am

    Self-care is a good word to follow in 2015. To eat a healthy diet and to exercise. I am eating a healthy diet just about every day, but I have to give myself incentive by having a treat along the way because it will drive me nuts not to have a reward.

  17. January 18, 2015 / 10:37 pm

    Good for you. I wish you all the best on your journey! Taking care of you is so important.

  18. Barrie
    January 19, 2015 / 5:03 pm

    My 2015 theme is health… I want to all around be healthier…physically, mentally and spiritually. I’ve started out by choosing healthier foods for my family and myself.

  19. Krista F
    January 20, 2015 / 6:10 am

    Best of luck on your journey. I think a lot of us can relate to living in denial about our health. And it must be very hard to put yourself first as a parent. Thanks for sharing.

  20. January 20, 2015 / 5:02 pm

    It is definitely important everyone gets their self-care done ๐Ÿ˜‰

  21. polly
    January 21, 2015 / 6:44 pm

    I continue to keep my Diabetes under control by diet & exercise. Love my daily walks! Good luck to you!

  22. January 22, 2015 / 3:29 pm

    Great resolution – sounds like you’ve taken the hardest step to making a change! Good luck on your journey!

  23. loriag
    January 25, 2015 / 7:47 am

    Self care is so very important, if we do not, we are no help to others.

  24. Lisa Romine
    January 25, 2015 / 4:04 pm

    It seems like our own well-being always seems to take a backseat at times. We definitely need to make it a priority.

  25. January 26, 2015 / 2:56 pm

    You go girl — claim it this year for yourself and no one else! Wishing you the best of luck throughout this year as our put your health first and accomplish your goals.

    Thrifting Diva

  26. January 27, 2015 / 12:50 pm

    This is an amazing goal that you’ve set for 2015! It really is important to practice self-care and self-love and we often forget to do this. I wish you the best this year and hope you accomplish your goals.

  27. DinaJoy
    January 28, 2015 / 9:32 pm

    Such a wonderful theme for 2015! It seems like most women I know put everyone else first and neglect themselves. I don’t have kids, but I have 3 cats and they go to the vet regularly. I haven’t been to the doctor for over a year and I have a chronic disease! I just didn’t have the money for myself, but I still need to treat myself a little better this year. Thank you for the inspirational post!

  28. M.Clark
    January 28, 2015 / 10:15 pm

    Congratulations on finally putting yourself first. Forty pounds in forty days sounds amazing, good luck and I look forward to reading your updates on your progress. Thank you for sharing this post.

  29. February 4, 2015 / 8:07 am

    and after the programme how do you keep the weight off?

  30. kathy downey
    February 4, 2015 / 9:48 am

    I am so proud of you,beautiful and strong you can do anything you put your mind to,I am hoping NO I am being my best in 2015

  31. Michelle L
    February 4, 2015 / 8:36 pm

    Love the quote.

  32. Lynda Cook
    February 5, 2015 / 9:50 am

    Self- care is a great word for 2015, and one I should really consider, good luck on your journey!!

  33. Laurie P
    February 5, 2015 / 10:20 am

    Great theme!!! VERY INSPIRING!!!!

  34. Amy Heffernan
    February 6, 2015 / 9:30 am

    You go girl! You can do anything you put your mind too!!!

  35. February 6, 2015 / 12:33 pm

    You can do it! Loved your perspective and looking forward to following along!

  36. Anna W
    February 7, 2015 / 12:24 pm

    You will do awesome! Self care is so important, when we become mothers we always put ourselves last but we need to take care of ourselves to be able to give our kids the best care.

  37. Jan
    February 7, 2015 / 1:59 pm

    I need to get to this point about my work!

  38. mongupp
    February 9, 2015 / 8:41 am

    Go for it Margarita!

  39. May 11, 2015 / 1:03 pm

    I so want to cheer you on, but this is an extremely dangerous diet! The FDA condemns it for good reasons. The only safe way to lose weight is through proper nutrition and exercise. You probably will lose weight fast, but you will put it back on and more even faster. This diet is not only unsafe but it is illegal.
    Please reconsider and take care of yourself!

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