The Ultimate Definition of Balance


I’ve been thinking a lot about balance lately. As I get older, I realize that I am not someone who embraces routine wholeheartedly. I am someone who has a hard time doing the same thing everyday – whether it’s ordering the same drink, eating the same food, or having the same schedule each day. I find it monotonous, ultimately.

I am constantly receiving emails that are supposed to help my life – you know the ones: “Say Yes to Life” and “The 5 Things You Should Be Doing Each Morning”, etc, et. al.  They frustrate me because they all say the same thing: you should be doing A, B, C, and D each day to give yourself a great start, or that in order to be successful in business and in life, you should do 1, 2, and 3 or else you don’t even stand a chance.

It’s similar to those articles listing the “20 Things Successful Entrepreneurs Do Each Day”, alluding to the fact that if you do indeed happen to do all those things, you TOO will become like them. It’s become this shaming tactic in making us think that we are either not good enough or unable to achieve what we want to, else we decide to go against the items on the list.

It frustrates me because each day I wake up, and I guzzle a litre of cold water while I get ready for the day – yet I feel guilty because I know it should have  fresh, organic lemons and possibly raw, natural honey in it. I struggle to wake up at 6:15 am, let alone 5 am to get in my morning workout (ideally outdoors), as well as meditate and start my day with a motivational mantra, along with 5 minutes to enjoy a coffee or tea, as well as a green smoothie complete with kale and protein powder, of course.

Instead, my morning thoughts consist of the never-ending to-do list for the day, trying to focus my thoughts on prioritizing my to-do list, what the kids (and adults) will possibly have for dinner tonight, if I have to do laundry that day, what will the adults eat for lunch, if the ten year old make her own lunch for school (the answer to that question is YES, however the next question is: will it be a nutritious lunch? to which the answer is a resounding NOT REALLY), and what else….

Will I wake up at 5 am one day to a positive mantra to set my day off right, followed by a mini yoga stretching session and an outdoor jog? Will I write in my non-existent journal then create a green smoothie to enjoy while watching the sunrise?

Perhaps one day. But for now, I’ll continue to wake up at 6:15am (maybe 6:30 some days…), do some online shopping on my cell phone (cute shoes), get myself ready, cuddle my children, yell at everyone to “hurry up”, and then rush myself out the door before 8 am in order to make my commute into the city less harried than it already is… One day I’ll be calm and grounded and motivated and the ultimate definition of balanced.

But I’m not there just yet.

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  1. wonderful post! thanks for sharing!
    balance is a topic constantly I my mind….and I try not to read the shaming “20 Things Successful Entrepreneurs Do Each Day”. I am sure that if someone took statics of the outcomes of a population embarking on success and diligently incorporating those 20 things in their life, the results would be shocking; most would not become successful and if they did, the success would be temporary.
    my definition of success does not include living by someone else’s rules. success is about being authentically me…sometimes, that’s a struggle because we’re bombarded with everyone else’s message….it’s sometimes a struggle to look past society’s standards of success…the struggle is part of the journey.
    keep being you. you’re doing a great job!